How to Calm Down
We upset ourselves, often daily and cause anxiety that is unnecessary.
And then we usually act in ways that make it worse, which then leads to needing to make justifications.
It erodes the quality of our lives.
Though there are a number of accepted methods of treating anxiety disorders, I prefer Behavioral Therapy and Cognitive Therapy, initially. Many sufferers live with very negative self-talk, obsessive thoughts, destructive behaviors and distorted automatic thoughts that come after a feeling – not vice versa.
Some of my clients have told me, “I can’t help it. I don’t know why I keep acting that way; it’s just how I feel.”
But it’s not.
Clients generally experience rapid anxiety relief by using Cognitive Therapy in the first session to examine the feeling that occurs, often without notice – that was caused by a thought.
When you break it down, you realize that you can become aware of the first thought and then the next thoughts that seamlessly follow. Relaxation techniques can speed progress along too.
What thought caused this uncomfortable emotion?
Do my emotions and its intensity match the facts of the situation?
Or does it just match my assumptions of the situation?
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
Sharon Valentino, MA, ChT, CA LMFT, Psychotherapist, Behavioral Health
Calif. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, MFC51746
Masters Level Registered Addiction Specialist (MRAS) & Level IV Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor (CATC IV), Masters Counseling Psychology
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